CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

First, I think we should define what is Child Sexual Abuse.....

Any contact or interaction between a child and a more powerful person when the child is being used for the sexual gratification of the more powerful person. It can be physical, verbal or visual.

Physical - Touching private parts, fondling,making the child touch and/or manipulate the other's private body part,kissing, vaginal or anal intercourse or attempted intercourse.

Verbal - Obscene language, dirty jokes, cats calls.

Visual - Exhibitionism,peeping, voyeurism, showing and taking pornographic pictures, letting down the bars of privacy so that the child watches or hears sexual acts.

This morning, while i was working and had my messenger for a dating site stay online, one member ask me, "what do u think of the child sex on this site? seems allot going on." I proceeded to asking him if he is watching cams and he said "yes" so i proceeded to where he is pointing me and i was taken aghast when i saw what he was referring. A mother presumably,and a girl about 6 to 8 year old was on cam on safe web cams. They are both wearing scanty clothing, the mother wearing a white bra and a short or pantie i guess, i cant be more certain as i was more focused on the kid, wearing something like a beach wear in white same color with the mom. While her mom is exposing her breast and showing off her nipples, the child was also showing hers which is just plain flat and exposing that she is still really a child.I was more horrified when the mom started taking off the pantie of the kid. What a horrible thing she did, exposing the girl thingy, showing off her genitals to people watching on web cams, perhaps a very satisfying thing to perverts and child pedophiles but not to us people whose common responsibility is to create a culture where children are protected and human sexuality and relationship are valued.

Being sexually abused as a child could be devastating, depending on coping abilities and mental health of the child.

There is a variety of effects on children that could be cognitive, emotional or physical. The level of effect depends on the situation (age, duration and type of abuse, gender, degree of violence, who the offender is). Effects could be sexual misbehavior, homophobia, and fear of sex, shame, guilt, eating problems, interpersonal relationships, decision making problems, powerlessness, anger, depression, and suicide.

It really saddened me that people can do the worst to their kids just to get a meager pay for a show on web cams.And this also saddened me that people who have witnessed the act and can do something to stop this lewd acts of lasciviousness are just blindly ignoring what this simple show on cams can manifest on the mind of the kids and can exploit them and can be a big influence to their life in the future.

Perhaps its time that web cams should be censored and members in dating sites who are indulging in child prostitution and sexual child abuse should be banned. I appreciate that person.com are banning members who are showing their private parts on safe web cams and its a good gesture to keep the site respectable and segregate the ones who are showing their body in unsafe cams, but i am more concerned of the kids showing off in this site, i hope this problem be given a solution and can be prevented not to happen again. I find it so demeaning and so unbecoming and the people who put the kids into child prostitution should be punished and jailed.

ENJOY LIFE

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.... today is another day.

Last night i was watching the news in the TV. For more than a week i have closely monitored the news about the story of the known media broadcaster and commentator Ted Failon and his wife Trina Etong who had committed suicide or is it murder?

It was being known that the main reason she committed suicide was because of financial problems that happened to the family. I then ask my neighbor, while she was peeking at my door while i was watching the news last night, "Do u think money can be a good reason to take one's life?" Sheila then grunted.. "naaaahhhhhh!!! i don't have money but i still want to live" lol good answer Sheila, i answered. I don't have money too but i feel the same way, I want to live long!

What makes me interested was the way the police handled the case and what they did in arresting almost all the relatives and the household help and the driver. Everyone was charged with "Obstruction of Justice." and they were practically picked and roughly shove to police cars and treated like a convicted criminal. OMG.. i mumbled while watching the scene of the arrest.

Yesterday was the day the wife was cremated, and last night, while i was watching the tribute of the husband Ted Failon to his wife, i was greatly touched about how their romance started. He had told how the family had misunderstanding when at 18 his wife run away with him and they got married amidst family conflicts. He had told the story about a romance which from richer or poorer they had promised.. 'til death do us part'. I could not hold back my tears when he said in his eulogy... that he is also thinking, after the tragedy that happened, he thinks death is an immediate solution to the problems he is facing too. OMG i mumbled again. i think anyone saying this kind of thing, should be treated seriously and shouldn't be taken for granted. They need help professionally. The depression which could eat up anyone who undergo serious problems can lead to suicidal instincts! Don't u think so Sheila? When i turned again, Sheila was gone. lol.

I had admired how Ted had soared and how he handled the TV segment they had before "Hoy! Gising'. He was great! He lambasted anyone who needed to be shaken up especially the government servants. Shaken up as in practically. The program was great but it didn't last long.. maybe mainly cause it did its purpose in shaking up anyone sleeping.. ha ha that was what "hoy gising" mean.

What i don't understand is why the police had been so harsh in their handling of his case. Hey guys, is there something else going on? some speculated that what the police did was some rest back at the broadcaster. mm mm maybe so i don't really know but i think its obvious.

Now i must get back to work. I am tired but i want to live. Life is good. Let's enjoy life... but live it sensibly. To live is not about having money or achievements... but to be happy. The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.